London’s Best Sex Parties: A Hedonist’s Guide

Londons best sex parties

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Want to know which sex parties are the best in London?

Sex parties have been popular across the Channel with couples in France enjoying the lifestyle of Libertine clubs for many years. Brits may have enjoyed a liberated approach to sex with private swinging parties but many UK events have failed to live up to the decadence and sophistication of their Gaelic neighbours. Until now….

In recent years, the face of sex parties (particularly in the capital) have evolved from being staged in the homes of its members to full-scale clubs dedicated to providing purpose-built and elegant environments. Many have a strict policy on members and this can be based on age, weight or looks. Some clubs aim to offer an elite experience for the young and the beautiful as they try to boost the appeal of sex parties to a new audience.

We’ve selected the best sex parties in London to suite all tastes, penchants and styles. For those people who fail to secure membership to the more selective clubs, we’ve covered all the bases, so read on…

Le Boudoir

Le Boudoir is a private members club running swinging parties for anyone into the lifestyle as well as members of the LGBTQ community. Only heterosexuals or homosexuals with a valid marriage certificate (or civil partnership( are granted couples membership. The club has had plenty of astute heterosexual men who claim to be a gay couple so that they can attend couples only nights.

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Le Boudoir hosts a variety of themed nights throughout the year. Image via website.

The club is located in the City of London, just a few minutes walk between Liverpool Street and Aldgate Underground stations.

The venue has plenty of play areas but no jacuzzis or hot tubs. It is a bring your own alcohol event as the club has no license to serve.

Only pre-approved members can attend any of their events so you will need to submit an online application before you plan to visit the club. Waist up photographs are required for all membership submissions. No guests are allowed and you must bring photo ID with you every time you attend.

Annual membership fees are £10 for single ladies, £25 for couples and single men. Event fees vary by night but are generally around £45-70 for couples, £10-20 for single women and £70 for single guys.

Events are run every Friday and Saturday between 9.30pm and 3.00am and the first Wednesday of the month from 8.00pm to midnight. Some nights are couples only so do check in advance before attending.

Club Pedestal

This club is ‘a playground for the dominant woman and those who worship her’. It attracts a mix of people, from dominant women to submissive men and woman as well as TV/TS. However, events are strictly femdom only and males may not attempt to dominate any women.

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Women are at the heart of all play times at the Pedestal. Image via ClubPedestal.

There is a dress code and all guests should dress to impress in fetish clothing, black clothing or bondage gear. The club has changing rooms on site so you don’t have to ride the tube in your kinkiest outfit. It is recommended that first time visitors wear a collar. Full nudity is not allowed.

The club runs entertainment on their themed nights which can include performance artists, strippers, fire-eating or other erotic and kinky acts.

There are multiple rooms at the venue including a fully equipped dungeon.

Submissives are invited to place themselves on ‘the menu’ with details of their services so that dominas can help themselves to something ‘a la carte’.

Events are usually held once a month with full details of the next meeting being published on their website. Tickets are priced at £20 for singles (£25 on the door) and £35 for couples (£40 on the door).

Killing Kittens

Established in 2005 as a female-focused, elite sex club, Killing Kittens holds regular sex parties at different locations in and around London. The club has a strict vetting policy on all new members to ensure that guests are young and attractive; over-45s can attend Silver Kitten events.

The ethos of the club is centred around women being in control and are sophisticated and elegant soirees. Members must dress to impress and wear masks for the entire evening. The result is a decadent and erotic atmosphere that is heightened by the use of candlelight, champagne and oysters coupled with an exquisitely styled and well-prepared venue.

Events usually incorporate sensual entertainment to allow guests to acclimatise to the hedonistic environment. Plenty of play spaces are set-up and there is ample time to enjoy meeting other singles and couples. As a female-dominated group, women usually outnumber the men by at least 6:4.

Killing Kittens also holds events internationally as well as in other UK locations. All guests must be members with annual costs starting at £90 plus event fees on top. Admission prices to parties does vary but single women are often free with couples paying around £100. Single men are able to attend some parties.

You can read more on Killing Kittens in our full guide, here.

The Velvet Society

The ‘exclusive, esoteric society for the liberated beau monde’, the Velvet Society is a secret club for pre-invited ladies and their partners. It is a very elite group which guards its practices very highly. As a result, we can only tell you a certain amount of information about what goes on at their parties.

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This secret society is about as far away as you are likely to get from a Masonic lodge. Image via website.

The society is reportedly over 250 years old and is rumoured to have been established by the Duchess of Wharton and Lady Dashwood. These two ladies were the wives of the founders of the notoriously hedonistic Hellfire Clubs in 18th century London. The clubs were dens of immorality for important men of the time with womanising, gambling and debauched sexual behaviour being common. The two women simply set the gender balance right by creating their own libertine environment with the heart of the social set being the right sort of ladies.

The Velvet Society has a complex inner hierarchy of women with important roles and responsibilities passed on over decades of membership and service. The current membership includes many women of note including celebrities, politicians and aristocracy.

Membership is either by invitation or by recommendation with new recruits being subjected to intense scrutiny before being afforded the privileges of membership. Women must be intellectually, as well as physically, gifted and of sufficient good standing. In keeping with the society’s secrecy, they must also be highly discreet.

Notoriously hard to get invited to, if you ever have the chance to attend an event held by the Velvet Society then do not pass it up; it could be the only opportunity you ever get!

Club Subversion

23 Lewisham Way, London SE14 6PP

A fetish club in south-east London just a few minutes’ walk from the Goldsmiths University, Club Subversion runs its events at the Crystals Nightclub.

Run by a fetish scene Queen and Mistress Absolute, the club was founded 15 years ago to provide a modern, fun and friendly venue for SM events.

There are three types of events run by the club:

  • Club Subversion nights – run bi-monthly for fetish fans looking to dress up, dance, play and socialise. Suitable for newbies and seasoned players.
  • Subversion Noir – darker SM events where the play is more extreme. More suited for experienced players.
  • One Off Events such as London Fetish Weekend of Subversion Mansion Parties.

Events give guests access to a large dungeon playroom as well as having several house Mistresses, Masters and subs to provide advice and guidance for newcomers.

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The ‘Noir’ events are a little darker and more edgy. Image via website.

Resident and guest DJs create a clubbing vibe and there is a strict dress code for high-fetish fashion; strictly no casual clothes or fancy dress allowed.

Guests are a mix of fetishists, genders, sexualities, ages and backgrounds.

Tickets are priced at £20 or £25 on the door; check the website for the dates of the next events.

Torture Garden

Founded in 1990, the Torture Garden is the world’s largest body art and extreme fetish club. Each month, between 800 and 2500 members attend their events.

Members are diverse in every way, from their age, kinks and sexuality to gender identity, dress sense and style. It is an open-minded establishment where (almost) anything goes and has attracted famous names such as Jean Paul Gaultier, Katie Price, Dita Von Tease and Marc Almond.

A modern club that embraces the fantastical, there are no real limits to dress codes except for full nudity or boring and cheap outfits; the only rule is that if your outfit wouldn’t turn heads in the street then don’t bother wearing it to the Torture Garden. If you intend visiting one of their events then you should take the time to read their disclaimer on dress codes;guests will be turned away at the door if their outfit isn’t extreme enough.

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Outfits can be risque and daring but they cannot be ordinary. Image via website.

The venue has a principle reputation as an alternative club with performance art too daring, risqué and extreme for other venues. The music is spread into 3-6 rooms each showcasing a different aspect of music from Burlesque Exotica and Glamour Trash to Electro Swing, Disco Punk and Sleazy Rock n Roll.

Events are wide and varied but each takes place in a venue which includes play rooms and a well-equipped dungeon space. The address for each event is given on confirmation of your booking and ticket payment.

Events are usually held on a Saturday night with tickets costing £29-£39 plus booking fees.

Skirt Club

Established in 2014, the Skirt Club is an all-girls sex club where homosexual and bisexual women or just the curious kind of lady can explore girl-on-girl action. The etyhos of the club is very much one of experimentation with no questions and no consequences.

All events are run without any men in attendance and the events have proved very popular. Evenings are held in private venues across a range of international hubs, including London. Locations are chosen for their sumptuous surroundings and prestige position and are always completely closed-door.

Most events start with champagne and cocktails with some form of erotic entertainment such as a burlesque dancer or bondage rope performer followed by a guest speaker.

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No skirting around these introductions….Image via Skirt Club.

Members are usually professional women, under the age of 50, who are beautiful, athletic and intelligent. Usually high-achievers, many are drawn to the club because of the safe way to explore and experiment.

The club also holds ‘Mini Skirt’ events which are a prelude and taster for their closed-door evenings. Usually held in a public space, these nights are just for socialising.

Interested applicants must apply to the committee for membership.

Full listings of all events are available via the website.

Rubber Cult

As the name would suggest, the Rubber Cult is a strictly rubber only event and is the UKs only club of this kind. Basically, the bulk of the items worn on your body must be made of rubber, gummi or latex (does not include accessories).

The club holds regular events which can include dungeon and medical play zones, rubber fashion shows, a shine corner and latex play.

A niche fetish event, guests can enjoy a range of toys including vacbeds, vaccubes, sleep sacks and rubber straight jackets.

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A celebration of all things rubber, choose your outfit wisely. Image via website.

Often referred to as a ‘cabaret of rubber’, a Rubber Cult event usually starts at 8.00pm and goes on until 3.00am. The current venue is in Houndsditch at The Alice.

Ticket prices vary by event but are usually in the order of £30.

Sparkle Hard

An inclusive queer oasis, the Sparkle Hard club is a combo of a good old fashioned rainbow dance club with a play party. The guests at these events are more gender fluid than gender binary and are largely made up of those people who associate with the LGBTQ scene. However, everyone is welcome so long as they play by the rules.

The dress code is fancy dress with anything fun, sexy, interesting and/or silly being welcome.

A private party that is attended by some fetishists, guests are reminded that play is not monitored and hard or edge play is not permitted.

The club does not sell tickets on the door so you will need to book in advance and only registered members can purchase online.

Guests come in all shapes, sizes, ages, gender identity and sexual orientation. If you want to experience a body positive, diverse mix of play partners then Sparkle Hard is an ideal party…if you love flamboyant characters, glitter and unicorns.

Club Antichrist

A club that celebrates a mix of industrial gothic, fetish and mayhem, Club Antichrist is Europe’s largest crossover event.

It is run six times a year and attracts around 1500 people. 2018 will be the clubs 14th year in operation.

Guests come from all kinds of fetish backgrounds and the dress code reflects this. The general rule of thumb is if you would look out of the ordinary in a high street pub then you would probably fit right in. Alternative dress includes vampires, goths, rockabillys, punks, Lolitas, uniforms (no Nazi insignia), cybergoths, steampunks. It’s worth getting this right as management have been known to turn people away at the door if they don’t look the part.

Events are held at different venues but each is well-chosen and staged to provide a fully equipped dungeon, multiple dancefloors (post-punk, goth, industrial and metal) and live performance spaces. The two current venues in use are Electrowerkz in Islington and Fire in Vauxhall.

Mutual and consensual play and fetish activity is permitted but solo play is not. Guests caught playing with themselves will be ejected.

Events kick off at 8.00pm and run through until 6.00am with last entry being 2.30am.

Tickets cost around £25-£30 or £40-£45 for couples.

Pleasure Island Parties

Pleasure Island Parties organise intimate, couples only sex parties in five-star venues. Groups are usually limited to around 20 people and usually take place in luxury hotels or elegant private residences.

Whilst you can only book in pairs, intimate friends can come together even if they are not a couple.

Events are organised sporadically but seem to be every 4-6 weeks

Play at Pleasure Island Parties is more sensual and erotic and more about exploring other people in a gentle way rather than a hardcore orgy.  Whilst consensual sex is not only encourage but very common, it is certainly more focused on playfulness and erotic pleasure.

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Seductive and erotic, the mood at Pleasure Island parties is more gentle. Image via website.

Ticket prices are £100 (early bird) or £120 per couple. Details of the venue will be supplied to ticketholders on the morning of the event.

Arrival times are generally between 8.00pm and 8.30pm with the evening finishing at 1.30pm.

Our Place 4 Fun

A more traditional swingers club, Our Place 4 Fun offers a friendly and all-inclusive party for couples and singles looking to try London’s lifestyle.

They are a private members club and all guests must be registered users through the website. Creating an account is free but may not be done on the night. Bookings are required for Saturday events.

A good mix of guests are in attendance at their events but membership is not exclusive or elitist so expect all ages, sizes, shapes and backgrounds.

Different dress codes apply on different nights so do check the website in advance for full details.

Events are run as follows:

  • Tuesday night: Greedy Girls Nights – 10.00pm to 3.00am
  • Thursday night: Couples and Ladies only – 10.00pm to 3.00am
  • Friday night: Frisky Friday, Mixed Event– 10.00pm to 3.00am
  • Saturday night: Cloud 9, Mixed Event – 10.00pm to 5.00am.
  • Saturday night: Sexy Sunday, Kinky Mixed Event – 10.00pm to 3.00am

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